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Am a contradiction of sorts. i love going out and having a good time with friends, and i can also stay home chill out over a book or a movie.. Am very passionate about writing, so give me a topic and watch me float away into wonderland... I Am crazy about music,books,friends and my doggie... :)

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Battle with the body - XIII

So, couple of days back while sitting at a coffee shop, I observed two people talking in the table nearby. There was quite a bit of animated head nodding and arms flailing. And then there was the gestures.. I was also able to hear the conversation [no i was not eves dropping, they were loud]. The guy had his arms spread out on either side and was referring to a person with "big" as a prefix.  The girl then smiled and replied "Ah, yes, I know him.. have met him at xyz event... la la la"...  This got me thinking.... 

Why is it that when you are referring to someone and need the other person to understand- you use hand signs and gestures? It is so they will identify the shape or figure right? While am fine with using these for things and places, it irks me to no end when people use them for other people. Spreading hands wide on either side to show a “big” person, or one hand above the head to show “tall” and showing the pinky finger when we are talking about someone lean/skinny and so on… I find it offensive and  it is also according to me body shaming… 

I get that it is the easiest way to get someone to identify the person one is talking about, but heck it is not right...  Imagine if you were referring to someone's size and that person happens to walk by , they would definitely be shocked and hurt... 

You might not mean to insult or hurt the person, but you are… Infact there is a family our families have known forever and the man’s name has a prefix “gundu” [fat]…  It all began eons ago, mainly cos this man and another uncle share the same name. So in order to differentiate or specify who you are talking about, you need a distinct word or nickname… since this man was big built, conveniently people added the prefix “gundu” to his name… now even though he is no longer big, and the other uncle has passed away, the tag has stuck on… 
















                                                 

Thursday, October 5, 2017

Battle with the body - XII getting published!

If you have been following my posts on "Body Shaming", you will know that I have grown up facing the wrath of many, smirks of too many to remember and of course the kind words of a few... And well, over the years have grown to love myself, love my body the way it is, and enjoy life for what its worth... 

I was on a recent holiday to USA, yes the infamous America and it was my 1st time there. I packed my bags, not a single salwar, indian outfit in it and was all set to have a blast. Did I?You betcha...   I wrote about the experience for an online magazine and here is a screenshot of the same below... :-)