Am not talking about a game of cards, or the different classifications in the cards; or for that matter, a spade used in the garden! 
The spade i am referring to is the one i call a SPADE!!  Heard the expression- Calling a spade a spade? well, it firts me to the T, to the very last dot and am sure the person who framed knew i was gonna be born!! I have this habit of being a little too frank at times and that is when i either get appreciated or totally knocked down by those around me! 

 “To speak plainly – to describe something as it really is.”

No beating around the bush
No buttering things up or adding some sweet icing to it
if i like something – i blurt it out
and if i dont like something – i blurt that out as well 
And during my little lifetime, i’ve managed to step/do the tango on quite a few feet, much to the chagrin of family.. Friends know me and are completely alright and know what i mean when i say/comment on something! But for some reason, it doesnt sit well with family… Who would have thought one would have to pussy foot around members of their own clan? Why watch what i say when am around people who are my blood?  but well, thats what the case seems to be!
I cant comment on something without someone reprimanding me- You are being rude!! 
Ahem.. hellow, nothing wrong in saying that a cousin’s kid is not supposed to play with my lappy or open draws and cupboards at home while the kids parents are busy yakking away…. 
I shouldnt defend Floppy or my sis when someone passes a not so nice remark!! they are guest, ergo they can say what they want… and they are probably some uncle/aunt/cousin that we are close to!!
I demand to know why we cant speak out heart with those who are “Close” to us? 
With friends, i can fire away and know they will take it in the right sense and they know i will take it in the right sense if they are to criticise/comment/correct/scold…!! 
Any such experiences?? Do share!!!  
Till then, i shall contiue calling a Spade a spade!!
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