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Am a contradiction of sorts. i love going out and having a good time with friends, and i can also stay home chill out over a book or a movie.. Am very passionate about writing, so give me a topic and watch me float away into wonderland... I Am crazy about music,books,friends and my doggie... :)

Tuesday, May 4, 2010


Am not talking about a game of cards, or the different classifications in the cards; or for that matter, a spade used in the garden! 

The spade i am referring to is the one i call a SPADE!!  Heard the expression- Calling a spade a spade? well, it firts me to the T, to the very last dot and am sure the person who framed knew i was gonna be born!! I have this habit of being a little too frank at times and that is when i either get appreciated or totally knocked down by those around me! 

 "To speak plainly - to describe something as it really is."
No beating around the bush
No buttering things up or adding some sweet icing to it
if i like something - i blurt it out
and if i dont like something - i blurt that out as well 

And during my little lifetime, i've managed to step/do the tango on quite a few feet, much to the chagrin of family.. Friends know me and are completely alright and know what i mean when i say/comment on something! But for some reason, it doesnt sit well with family... Who would have thought one would have to pussy foot around members of their own clan? Why watch what i say when am around people who are my blood?  but well, thats what the case seems to be!

I cant comment on something without someone reprimanding me- You are being rude!! 
Ahem.. hellow, nothing wrong in saying that a cousin's kid is not supposed to play with my lappy or open draws and cupboards at home while the kids parents are busy yakking away.... 

I shouldnt defend Floppy or my sis when someone passes a not so nice remark!! they are guest, ergo they can say what they want... and they are probably some uncle/aunt/cousin that we are close to!!

I demand to know why we cant speak out heart with those who are "Close" to us? 
With friends, i can fire away and know they will take it in the right sense and they know i will take it in the right sense if they are to criticise/comment/correct/scold...!! 

Any such experiences?? Do share!!!  

Till then, i shall contiue calling a Spade a spade!!

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vishesh said...

Ha well, there are a few things common between us, I think :P

Anonymous said...

:) Spade it is!! Come on!! you got to be polite, well behaved!!! what can you be such a smart arse?! Olunga adakama nalla ponna iru! :D

Anu said...

of course, thats how it is at most homes...even at mine!!!. just wait till u get married...... its worse then, esp since u have no idea abt how the other will react!!!

UmaS said...

Thats the difference between frnds and relatives, Aarti. While a frnd accepts you for calling a spade, a spade, the relatives dont take kindly to that.

I too feel low, that I cant tell my mind many a times, but thats life, I guess. So, its double action for me - me, as I am with frnds and a different me for the not-so-understanding relatives. Sad life.

Joanie Ehlers said...

I can relate! Your thoughts bring me right back to where I have been this evening, reflecting back to things that went wrong with my first marriage. Had I spoke my mind more with my family, with his and with him, I believe I would be in a very different place today. Don't ever let someone keep you from speaking your mind.

iamyuva said...

ya..spade is a spade is a spade.. like you i do the same but naturally it doesn't sit well with all and all the time...
naturally sugar coating seems to be work fine... but large point is what you would expect from others.!!

i would say its not about relatives or friends..its about the person and based on your relationship with them... and your intention.right!!

much of important things in life are subjective..


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Anonymous said...

Yeah!! Go do it girl!! Call a spade a spade or whatever you want ;-)

rauf said...

i am 62 ORTEEDEE, i have childhood friends, that means over 55 years of friendship, 50, 40, 30, 20, 10. Some flaunt their 'progress' (wealth, possessions mostly) and ask unpleasant questions. i was supposed to be smart. But i keep long years of friendship in mind and keep quiet.
Same with relatives. You are not alone. You speak for the family. Your reaction may affect your family relationship. You have to think of love and affection you have enjoyed over the years and smile. Just bear it Orteedee.

Vidya said...

I like calling a spade a spade and not a metal digging implement! Blessedly, it has gone down well with my family!

I am catching up on blogs etc. and I loved reading your blog about men and their ability to say "No"... That was a funny one!


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