It has come to a point where when we met someone, the first thing they ask is “are you on Fb?”.. A guy you connect with on a dating site asks if he can add you in on Fb.. Oh, and I have actually had guys from dating apps find me on Fb and send me messaging asking for a connect.. I mean, WTF~ Why this obsession? I know it sounds like am anti social networking sites, no way.. I love it, and have my moments on it but don’t get this whole “need to be connected for the sake of it” phenomenon…I had recently written another post on how people have become addicted to these apps and I am not really kicked about the whole “being in touch” all the time concept.
Time changes a lot of things, it changes how we look, how we think and even how we process information. Heck, it changes what we want/desire as well.
What has also happened over time is the changes in technology , the influx of social networking websites- twitter, Facebook, instagram, pinterest, whatsapp, telegram, hike, and so on.. All of these has made it so much easier to reach out and connect with. We dont ever need to lose touch with anyone, ever again, as the number of “online friends” grow by the day. There is something wonderful about reconnecting with an old school friend, or finding an ex colleague on one of these platforms. It gives us such an adrenalin rush that we bask in its glory for a while. Now I know a lot of people who show off how many Facebook friends they have or Twitter Followers. While on one side you boast of this, on the other side there are brands who are keen to connect with these very people, cos they seem to have moved to a category called “influencers” [whatever that means…].. But then, what is the point of having so many friends, if you are in touch with a handful on a regular basis? So, it actually looks like having the gazillion friends is not a good thing after all. What is surprising is that there are quite a few of our “online friends” we haven’t met ever or spoken to more than once.
Again, am not saying Social media or online world is a bad thing, just wondering what is the point of it all. Therefore, it seems quite natural that time also affects the relationships we have and the bonds we have built in life. Over the past few years, I have noticed that the number of “friends” [people am close to, in confide in, I meet/hang out with often and of course trust] has dwindled in numbers. But this is a good thing. I am quite happy with the few that am close to, i have around me and don’t really miss the others who were left behind.
Yes, I do get the occasional message asking if am alright, how come no messages etc, but then those die out with time as well.
It got me wondering- why does this happen? Is it something that everyone goes through or something that is just me… Within few minutes, I stop wondering and move on in life.
I guess its just that over time
our tolerance for drama goes down,
we stop staying in touch with those who add no value to our lives,
who have no major aspirations or dreams….
And those who drain us of energy with their emotional drama/mess…
It is only fair to me to have people who mean something, who care, and who are true blue friends… Otherwise, I would just be unfair to myself.. Am happy with the 4-5 around, eternally grateful for them as well. So, who is your 5?