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Am a contradiction of sorts. i love going out and having a good time with friends, and i can also stay home chill out over a book or a movie.. Am very passionate about writing, so give me a topic and watch me float away into wonderland... I Am crazy about music,books,friends and my doggie... :)

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Keeping up with changing times or not …

Yesterday was Deepavali, the festival of lights, the day when people go bonkers over crackers and all that jazz…

Yes... Yesterday was Deepavali, and at my maternal grandparents place after 2 years of no Deepavali  [or any festival ---> 2015- Grandpa passed away, so no celebrations for a year, then an aunt passed away, so nothing for the next year… you get the drift] .. Gramma was up, and she had heated up oil for herself & me for the “Oil bath”. She asked me if I was gonna take an oil bath, and I told her “no, not today”… which was also the same answer I gave when she told me to wear something new [fortunately she did not give me a hard time about it and let it be]. Well, my other Gramma [dad’s mom] had passed away less than a month ago and honestly, I was in no mood to celebrate anything! 

Gramma being Gramma, went ahead and had an oil bath, called and spoke to her kids and sibling, wishing them for the day… She then insisted on wobbling to the kitchen to make Idli, chutney and insisted I eat some… I hate idlies, but then managed to plunge down 2 idlies… Also had a spoonful of Okkarai [a sweet we make for Deepavali]..

I found it quite amusing and frustrating that Gramma was being so stubborn about age-old traditions... And in many cases, I find it is the older generation that is behaving in this manner... 

Some questions that popped in my head were,
Are they afraid of reality that they hide behind these traditions?
What is it about traditions that they find hard to compromise on?
Why do they not go with the times/changes?
Are they averse to change? Is change scary?
Is it the fact that they are growing old that is unsettling? [had infact done a post on this sometime back- Read it here

Back in the days, Deepavali [and other festivals] meant the entire family landing up at this house and spending pretty much all day here…. It was also a day when we got new clothes and a small amount of money from our grandparents.  Now, with all of us grown up, things aren’t what they used to be. Even if everyone lands up here, they all scoot in different directions within few hours. It has honestly become just another day [ a day off].. And these days, we go shopping at random times during the year, unlike earlier... 

Strangely, am not big on traditions, probably because most of them don’t make any sense to me.. Family has no answers for my questions and am reprimanded with a “we do it, so you better follow”.... I am a bit of a rebel, but then, am not one of those who does things for the heck of it. I need logic, I need reasoning, history and all that jazz..

I don’t really know when things changed [or was it just I changed?], but it has been a decade or so since I have bought/burst a single cracker, half a decade since I stopped shopping for new clothes [will have something new in the cupboard, that I will wear for a short period of time just to satisfy the family]… I am also not big on the whole wake up at 4am, take oil bath, have Idli for breakfast kinda routine that goes on at home. I dont get it, never did, never will I guess.. It has become just another day, if you ask me! 

I honestly don’t remember what Deepavali was like growing up, as in - did we come to Chennai for the festival, or did we celebrate it where we were... Did we go visiting the few relatives we had in that town or just stay home, or did my dad’s office have parties we attended…. It is like that part of my memory has been wiped out clean…

Yesterday, I was glad this gramma was off to uncle’s house and I would be home alone….

I was glad I dint have to endure a family lunch, be around folks who went on and on about random stuff, or stay cooped up in my room doing my own thing…

I actually had a good day – went for a movie with a friend, and rest of the day was spent at home with Floppy.. we talked, watched some TV, he ignored me awhile going off to lounge under the sofa, whined about the nonstop crackers and well we had a fun evening.. J

How was your Deepavali/ Diwali? 

1 comment:

Susilan SD said...

Happy Deepavali!! I'm Susilan from Malaysia. Read your blog and it's quite interesting to read. Guess we share the same interest.. Writing.. Reading.. Dogs.. Keep it up!